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Introduction

Rasulullah (sallallahu alaihi wasallam) is reported to have said: “Allah Ta’ala does not look at your features (that who is more beautiful or what is her complexion) and wealth, but He looks at your hearts and actions.” (Saheeh Muslim #6543) While millions are spent on cosmetics, clothing, jewellery, etc, to adorn the outerself, how much effort do we make to purify our hearts and treat the maladies that create a terrible stench therein? The procedure to purify the heart is to refer to the Mashaayikh (spiritual guides) and seek the remedies to one’s spiritual ailments. Hadhrat Moulana Shah Hakeem Muhammad Akhtar Saheb (mudda zilluhu) is among the spiritual giants of our time who has helped numerous people overcome their spiritual maladies. A selection of the correspondence of those seeking spiritual guidance will be posted for general benefit. May Allah Ta’ala make it a means of our complete rectification.

Desire for Children

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Correspondence of  Hazrat Moulana Shah Hakeem Muhammad Akhtar Saheb (mudda zilluhu)

Condition:

Despite being married for fifteen years, I do not yet have children but I have an intense desire for a child. In the light of these issues, how can I acquire the sweetness of imaan? I am becoming extremely uneasy due to this. 

Answer:

The reason for this trembling and uneasiness is that we have decided we should certainly receive a certain thing or be blessed with children, etc. There is nothing wrong in making du‘aa for something. However it is compulsory to be pleased with the decree of Allah Ta‘ala just as it is compulsory to offer salaah and keep fast. Make du‘aa and resolve to remain pleased with whatever condition Allah Ta‘ala keeps you in. By handing yourself over to the decree of Allah Ta‘ala, your heart will remain at ease. Then you will not experience any anxiety and stress. You will experience the condition that has been explained in this couplet:

Translation: “The Master does as He wills. Why, then, should there be any worry? I am sitting peacefully with this belief that You are the Sovereign, and the all-wise as well.” (Solutions to Spiritual Maladies for the Lovers of Allah Ta‘ala, pg. 349)