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Introduction

Islam is a perfect deen. Part of the perfection of Islam is that together with the general obligations that apply to everyone, many laws are specific to males or females, keeping in mind each one’s specific roles in life, their physiological differences and other unique characteristics. Thus the laws pertaining to males and females differ in many aspects, among which are the postures of salaah, etc. Some of these rulings are briefly discussed hereunder.

Shar‘ee Rulings and Etiquettes

Etiquettes of the Guest

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Last Updated on Tuesday, 12 September 2017 16:16

1. If the guest will not be partaking of meals, he should inform the host in advance. If he does not do this, the host will prepare meals and thereafter be disappointed when the guest does not eat. Obviously, this causes great inconvenience to the host.

2. If the guest is going anywhere, he should first inform the host.

3. The guest should not accept an invitation for any meal without first asking the permission of the host.

4. The guest should not interfere in the household affairs and matters of the host.

5. If the guest needs to make a request for anything, he should do so with respect and humility. He should never be demanding and rude.

6. If the guest has any special dietary requirements (e.g. he is on a strict diet and cannot eat certain foods) then he should inform the host in advance so that the preparations can be made accordingly. He should not wait for the meal to be served and thereafter inform the host of his diet.

7. The guest should not place a request before the host that will put the host through difficulty. Hence, the guest should be considerate and thoughtful before making any request.

8. The guest should not take uninvited people with him to the home of the host.

9. If several varieties of food or dishes are served then the guest should partake of a little from each dish.

   

Etiquettes of Meeting a Person

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Last Updated on Tuesday, 25 July 2017 15:36

1. When meeting a person, do so smilingly and pleasantly.

2. When meeting a person for the first time, introduce yourself by stating your name, the place in which you live and the purpose for your visit/meeting.

3. Do not meet a person at a time that will inconvenience him due to him being involved in some work, resting, etc.

4. Do not prolong the duration of the visit and inconvenience the person. Often, women visit other women at their homes and stay so long that the woman’s work is affected e.g. she is unable to cook and complete the other chores of the home. This naturally causes her difficulty and inconvenience.

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Etiquettes when being Addressed

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Last Updated on Thursday, 27 April 2017 14:11

1. When somebody speaks to you, listen attentively. Showing indifference will hurt the speaker’s feelings. Similarly, do not wake up and leave while you are being spoken to (unless the conversation involves haraam e.g. backbiting, etc.).

2. If you do not understand what has been said, seek clarification. Do not pretend to understand, and do not use your own opinion to try and interpret or understand the statement.

3. If you are requested to do something, respond clearly by either accepting or rejecting. Do not give an ambiguous answer or remain silent, thus giving the person the impression that you intend to fulfill the request whereas you do not intend to fulfill it. Also, if you accept, then inform the person as soon as the request is fulfilled.

4. When listening to a lecture or attending a ta’leem, focus on what is being said. Do not engage in conversation with another person, fidget with one’s clothing, fingers, etc., or use one’s phone.

5. If you are asked to identify yourself (e.g. over the phone or when knocking on someone’s door) then do not answer by saying, “It’s me”. Instead, introduce yourself completely by stating your full name.

   

Etiquettes of Speech

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Last Updated on Thursday, 16 March 2017 14:22

1. Speak clearly and in a manner that is easy to understand. Hence, do not speak ambiguously or unclearly. Similarly, be to the point and do not mumble.

2. Always speak to people from the front. Do not stand or sit behind them and speak to them.

3. When a person is speaking to you, give them your complete attention.

4. Do not interrupt a person who is speaking until he completes what he needs to say.

5. Think before speaking.

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Musaafahah – Rulings and Etiquettes

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Last Updated on Thursday, 02 February 2017 16:42

1. Musaafahah refers to clasping the hands.

2. It is sunnah to make musaafahah after making salaam. Hence, one should not merely make musaafahah without making salaam.

3. Musaafahah should be made with two hands.

4. Musaafahah should be made on arrival and on departure.

5. Musaafahah should not be accompanied by any other unfounded practice e.g. kissing cheeks, twisting thumbs, etc.

6. If a person is carrying something, suffice on making salaam and do not inconvenience the person by trying to make musaafahah with him.

7. Similarly, if a person is busy or is rushing, do not inconvenience him by making musaafahah with him.

8. A woman should not greet or make musaafahah with men who are not her mahram.

   

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