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‘Feelings’ for a Friend



Assalaamu ‘alaikum

Respected ‘Ulama

I have a very close friend who I know for a few years. The problem is that I think I’m getting close to her in a way not desired in Islam. I also know that she thinks of me as more than just a friend. Will it be better for me to maintain a distance from her, or will I be punished in the Hereafter for not talking to her? 



Bismihi Ta‘ala

Wa ‘alaikumus salaam wa rahmatullahi wa barkaatuh

Respected Sister in Islam

Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) said, “Question your heart (such as: Is this action in order or will it incur the displeasure of Allah Ta‘ala?). Sin is that which creates uneasiness in the heart and that which you dislike that people should know about.” (Musnad Ahmad #18001)

Your heart has already spoken, informing you that the relationship has become such that Allah Ta‘ala is displeased with it. Likewise, if someone had to know the feelings of your heart in this matter, you would be ashamed and totally embarrassed. The same appears to be the case from the opposite party.

Hence, in such a situation, it is compulsory to keep a distance. You will not be punished for this. Instead, since maintaining this distance is to keep yourself safe from sin, you will be rewarded for it.

May Allah Ta‘ala  grant you the courage to do that which is pleasing to Him.

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Uswatul Muslimah Panel of ‘Ulama