Parents not Finding a Spouse

Question:

Assalaamu ‘alaikum

Respected ‘Ulama

Kindly advise me.

My situation is as follows:

I’m a 19-year-old girl. I understand that 19 to some may look really small, but to a person like me, who has been looking forward to marriage for the past 2 years, it feels old.

The whole issue is, I understand that my parents feel they are doing what’s best for me, but they don’t realise that all their actions are making things difficult for me.

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Concern for Sustenance

Question:

Assalaamu ‘alaikum

Respected ‘Ulama

I would like to know what du‘aa one can recite for an increase in rizq. Insha-Allah I will be having a baby soon and I will need to leave work to take care of my child. I only work because I have to help my husband, as what he earns is not sufficient for us, even though we live a rather simple life and basically just meet our expenses every month.

I hope that Allah Ta‘ala will open some avenue for us so that I don’t have to work. It really stresses me out as I don’t know what we will do – especially since a baby is coming and we will have extra expenses.

I know that Allah Ta‘ala is the Provider and is taking care of us, but I do not want to be in a situation where I have to ask anyone for financial assistance. I daily read my Surah Waaqi‘ah. Is there anything else that I can read or do?

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Dealing with Difficult Toddlers

Question:

Assalaamu ‘alaikum

Respected ‘Ulama

I need some advice regarding bringing up my child.

Alhamdulillah I have two masha-Allah children. The problem I have is that my son (two years three months old) is an extremely active child. He is also what you can call a ‘naughty toddler’. There are times when I sit and cry, wondering “When will this child become easier to handle?”

Whatever I do for him is always done with a struggle. On a daily basis, doing normal, routine things is extremely difficult. He doesn’t like changing his nappy, he doesn’t like going into the bath, and he doesn’t like eating a lot of things. When I say it’s a struggle, I mean he hits me, kicks me, screams and cries, throws himself onto the ground, etc.

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Enmity for his In-Laws

Question:

Assalaamu ‘alaikum

Respected ‘Ulama

I write this with a very heavy heart. My sister is married to a man who is a practicing Muslim and a pious person, who is very close to ‘Ulama.

He is sometimes the best husband in the world to her, but then he “goes off”, and it happens all the time. She has lost her self-confidence and health due to the constant tension.

He doesn’t like the fact that he has in-laws and takes advantage because he knows my father will not tell him anything. Because of his unfriendly behaviour towards my family, no one likes him, yet he speaks nicely to his friends and own family.

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Specifying Ownership

Question:

Assalaamu ‘alaikum

Respected ‘Ulama

I am newly-married and we have received certain items as gifts. Is it okay to say that these items belong to both of us or is that ambiguous?

In the case of one spouse passing away, would these belong to the spouse that is living or will they need to be distributed to the heirs of the other spouse?

Does one have to be specific as to who the fridge, washing machine, appliances, cutlery, dishes, lounge suite, mattress, linen, etc. belong to?

If yes, what is the advisable way in which it should be done?

Jazakallah

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