Interference of Grandparents in Upbringing

Question:

Assalaamu ‘alaikum

Respected ‘Ulama

What rights do the paternal grandparents have over my children? They become exceptionally opinionated in my parenting and also try to dictate the time they spend with my child.

Due to not wanting to be disrespectful, I don’t say anything, but I would like to enquire the ruling on this matter.

Please advise.

Jazakallah

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Married Woman Making Istikhaarah regarding Another Man

Question:

Assalaamu ‘alaikum

Respected ‘Ulama

My question pertains to reading istikhaarah salaah in the following context:

If a person is married, but it’s not a very happy marriage, and after a few years, there is another person that enters this person’s life who seems to be a better match, then can istikhaarah be made regarding this other person?

I know that it essentially seems strange to want to read istikhaarah to see if another person is good for you while married to another, but can this be done? If not, is there perhaps an alternative solution to this problem?

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Becoming Accustomed to Household Responsibilities

Question:

Assalaamu ‘alaikum

Respected ‘Ulama

I terminated studying at madrasah last year. Alhumdulillah, I’m currently teaching during the afternoons.

My mother has advised me to stay at home during the mornings so that I can attend to the housework and learn to run a home. However, my Aapa wants me to teach during a portion of the morning. Similarly, another madrasah enquired regarding my availability to teach in the mornings. 

I had made the choice that I will help my mother by staying at home in the morning, but now I feel like I am turning down so many opportunities to come out in the path of Allah Ta‘ala to teach. I humbly request you to advise regarding which is more virtuous. 

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Depressed Due to a Haraam Relationship

Question:

Assalaamu ‘alaikum

Respected ‘Ulama

I’m a twenty-five year old Muslim girl. Eight years ago, I fell in love with a decent Muslim boy. I know that this was totally haraam, but I guess I was young (which I know is not an excuse).

We were together for six years, and two years ago, he hurt me by lying to me. I was heartbroken and immediately broke up with him. Since then, we do speak now and then, but it did not bother me or hurt me so much all along.

Even after all these years, I do kind of love him, but have left it all in Allah’s hands, as He knows what is in our taqdeer. Recently, I’ve been feeling so depressed that at times, I feel like breaking down when I hear from him.

Please suggest some du‘aa to me that I can read as I feel so miserable.

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Encouraging Youth to Reform

Question:

Assalaamu ‘alaikum

Respected ‘Ulama

I teach in a madrasah and so I meet and interact with many young girls from different backgrounds. I have noticed that although they may be involved in bad habits and ways, they are still quite receptive. I have hope that if I speak to them and give them encouragement, they will be inspired to change their ways for the better.

How should I address them? How can I give them hope in the mercy of Allah Ta'ala and encourage them to make taubah?

Jazakallah

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