Depressed Due to a Haraam Relationship

Question:

Assalaamu ‘alaikum

Respected ‘Ulama

I’m a twenty-five year old Muslim girl. Eight years ago, I fell in love with a decent Muslim boy. I know that this was totally haraam, but I guess I was young (which I know is not an excuse).

We were together for six years, and two years ago, he hurt me by lying to me. I was heartbroken and immediately broke up with him. Since then, we do speak now and then, but it did not bother me or hurt me so much all along.

Even after all these years, I do kind of love him, but have left it all in Allah’s hands, as He knows what is in our taqdeer. Recently, I’ve been feeling so depressed that at times, I feel like breaking down when I hear from him.

Please suggest some du‘aa to me that I can read as I feel so miserable.

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Encouraging Youth to Reform

Question:

Assalaamu ‘alaikum

Respected ‘Ulama

I teach in a madrasah and so I meet and interact with many young girls from different backgrounds. I have noticed that although they may be involved in bad habits and ways, they are still quite receptive. I have hope that if I speak to them and give them encouragement, they will be inspired to change their ways for the better.

How should I address them? How can I give them hope in the mercy of Allah Ta'ala and encourage them to make taubah?

Jazakallah

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Was Khadeejah (radhiyallahu ‘anha) a “Working Woman”?

Question:

Assalaamu ‘alaikum

Respected ‘Ulama

I shared this article on your website, regarding women working, with some of my friends.

Someone then mentioned that since Khadeejah (radhiyallahu ‘anha) was a merchant and used to work, it should be fine for Muslim women to work as well.

What is the correct answer to this?

Jazakallah

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WhatsApp Debates

Question:

Assalaamu ‘alaikum

Respected ‘Ulama

We have WhatsApp groups to inform sisters in our area of upcoming events, advertise home businesses, etc.

Recently, differing views are being posted on these groups with regards to women in masaajid, shiasm in South Africa, following a mazhab, haidh masaa-iI, etc.

Should we respond to these messages or should we remain silent and ignore them? If we should respond, how should this be done? Should we address the person privately or should we address them on the group?

Jazakallah

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YouTube Addiction

Question:

Assalaamu ‘alaikum

Respected ‘Ulama

I have recently developed an addiction to watching videos on YouTube. I know it’s wrong and most of the videos contain music as well as pictures of men which is zina of the eyes.

I know that if I continue watching, it is going to slowly strip away my modesty and further weaken my already weak imaan.

I feel very guilty after watching the videos and it disturbs be greatly. I have made istighfaar and tried to stop it, but due to my weakened state, I keep going back.

Please give me some advice as to what I could do to stop for good.

Jazakallah

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