Patience in Difficulty

Question:

Assalaamu ‘alaikum

Respected ‘Ulama

I am going through some difficulty at the moment. Please advise me as to how I can become more patient and please tell me some du‘aas that I can read in hardship.

Jazakallah

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Taking Guidance from One’s Parents in Choosing a Spouse

Question:

Assalaamu ‘alaikum

Respected ‘Ulama

I have been trying to convince my parents to get me married to a certain boy that I have known since childhood as we both like each other and would like to get married. However, my parents are very judgemental and seem to hate him because he is not from a high-status family.

They do not want to listen to me or any of the ‘Ulama that we have spoken to regarding this marriage. I was even told that I would never get married to him – even if it means staying unmarried for my entire life! I have received proposals from other boys, but I am simply not interested in anyone else.

Please help me and tell me what I can do.

Jazakallah

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Disciplining Children

Question:

Assalaamu ‘alaikum

Respected ‘Ulama

How do I raise my children correctly and discipline them appropriately? I know that it is not permissible for one to beat his children excessively, but I feel as though there is no other option because of the stubbornness of the children. Is there any other way of disciplining children without disobeying Allah Ta‘ala?

Jazakallah

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Self-Reformation and Acquiring Knowledge

Question:

Assalaamu ‘alaikum

Respected ‘Ulama

Recently, I’ve noticed that there is a lot of Islamic knowledge that I do not know due to leaving madrasah at a very young age. I find that it is much easier for boys to learn about Deen and gain reformation through going out in jamaat or through attaching themselves to a shaikh, etc. However, for girls it is more difficult.

I would just like to enquire as to how girls should reform themselves in this instance, where they find it difficult and embarrassing to go back to madrasah at such an old age, and they find it extremely difficult to find and make friends with people who are good company and will help with one’s reformation.

Jazakallah

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Hayaa in the Home

Question:

Assalaamu ‘alaikum

I try my best to dress modestly all the time. Even when I’m at home, I try to cover my hair and dress correctly. When at home, my sisters prefer to leave their hair open, wear short clothes and tight pants or dress in jeans and t-shirts, etc. We often argue about this. They say that since they are only wearing it at home, and they cover up with an abaaya when they go out, there is nothing wrong in dressing like this. Please advise if this is fine.

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