Child Afraid to Sleep

Question:

Assalaamu ‘alaikum

Respected ‘Ulama

Kindly advise me.

My son is nine years old. He is a very sensitive boy. He has lately become very scared to sleep at night. He wants me to stay in the room after I have read evening du‘aas and wait for him to sleep. Some nights, he doesn’t sleep, and when I go back to my room, he cries and cries, either to sleep on the floor by me or for me to come and lie with him. Most days, I am very patient and calm. I tell him to read his durood or surahs that he knows, to talk to Allah, not to be afraid of not falling asleep.

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Parents not Finding a Spouse

Question:

Assalaamu ‘alaikum

Respected ‘Ulama

Kindly advise me.

My situation is as follows:

I’m a 19-year-old girl. I understand that 19 to some may look really small, but to a person like me, who has been looking forward to marriage for the past 2 years, it feels old.

The whole issue is, I understand that my parents feel they are doing what’s best for me, but they don’t realise that all their actions are making things difficult for me.

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Concern for Sustenance

Question:

Assalaamu ‘alaikum

Respected ‘Ulama

I would like to know what du‘aa one can recite for an increase in rizq. Insha-Allah I will be having a baby soon and I will need to leave work to take care of my child. I only work because I have to help my husband, as what he earns is not sufficient for us, even though we live a rather simple life and basically just meet our expenses every month.

I hope that Allah Ta‘ala will open some avenue for us so that I don’t have to work. It really stresses me out as I don’t know what we will do – especially since a baby is coming and we will have extra expenses.

I know that Allah Ta‘ala is the Provider and is taking care of us, but I do not want to be in a situation where I have to ask anyone for financial assistance. I daily read my Surah Waaqi‘ah. Is there anything else that I can read or do?

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Dealing with Difficult Toddlers

Question:

Assalaamu ‘alaikum

Respected ‘Ulama

I need some advice regarding bringing up my child.

Alhamdulillah I have two masha-Allah children. The problem I have is that my son (two years three months old) is an extremely active child. He is also what you can call a ‘naughty toddler’. There are times when I sit and cry, wondering “When will this child become easier to handle?”

Whatever I do for him is always done with a struggle. On a daily basis, doing normal, routine things is extremely difficult. He doesn’t like changing his nappy, he doesn’t like going into the bath, and he doesn’t like eating a lot of things. When I say it’s a struggle, I mean he hits me, kicks me, screams and cries, throws himself onto the ground, etc.

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Enmity for his In-Laws

Question:

Assalaamu ‘alaikum

Respected ‘Ulama

I write this with a very heavy heart. My sister is married to a man who is a practicing Muslim and a pious person, who is very close to ‘Ulama.

He is sometimes the best husband in the world to her, but then he “goes off”, and it happens all the time. She has lost her self-confidence and health due to the constant tension.

He doesn’t like the fact that he has in-laws and takes advantage because he knows my father will not tell him anything. Because of his unfriendly behaviour towards my family, no one likes him, yet he speaks nicely to his friends and own family.

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