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Blend In or Stand Out?

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Last Updated on Wednesday, 14 October 2020 13:52

Imagine two women, dressed in identical clothing, yet one woman is receiving sin through wearing this clothing, while the other is acquiring reward. The reason? When donning the clothing, one woman made the intention to conceal her body, to show appreciation to Allah Ta‘ala for the blessing of clothing by wearing it, and to look attractive before her husband. Hence, on account of her good intentions, she acquires reward.

Conversely, the motive of the other woman was to admire herself, outshine another person, draw glances of envy, turn heads and attract compliments. Hence, since her evil intentions were self-admiration, to show off before people and to look down at others, she incurs sin.

Outwardly, both women appear alike, but inwardly and in reality, they are worlds apart from one another.

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Forcing Children to Eat

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Last Updated on Monday, 05 October 2020 14:00

Question:

Assalaamu ‘alaikum

Respected ‘Ulama

I would like to enquire about the meaning of the following hadeeth with regards to forcing children to eat food that they dislike. The hadeeth is something to this effect: If Nabi (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) liked food, he ate it. If he disliked it, he left it.

I understand that the hadeeth is saying that Nabi (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) never complained about food. However, with regards to upbringing of children, sometimes children dislike food but parents force them to eat it.

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Dealing with Feelings

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Last Updated on Wednesday, 02 September 2020 15:34

Question:

Assalaamu ‘alaikum

Respected ‘Ulama

I am thirteen years old and just started high school. I did not know what it felt like to like a boy as more than a friend until now. The boy feels the same way as I do. We both come from respectable households and have known each other for a long time.

As soon as I reached puberty, I stopped playing with him. It wasn’t hard until I started going to the same school as him which was last year. That’s when I realised that I had feelings for him. I’m trying to ignore these feelings but they won’t go away, and I know that it’s wrong to like somebody in this way.

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The Prescription for Progress

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Last Updated on Monday, 07 September 2020 09:09

Correspondence of  Hazrat Moulana Shah Hakeem Muhammad Akhtar Saheb (rahimahullah)

Condition:

Please prescribe for me such an action which will assist me to reach the pinnacle of progress.

Answer:

Do not displease Allah Ta‘ala for a single moment. In other words, abstain from every sin. Be especially cautious of safeguarding the eyes and heart. Please Allah Ta‘ala at every moment. In essence, ensure that your external and internal self is in accordance with the sunnah.

(Solutions to Spiritual Maladies for the Lovers of Allah Ta‘ala, pg. 324)

 

Dress for Success

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Last Updated on Tuesday, 01 September 2020 06:08

It is said that a person should ‘dress for success’. In the business world, this saying is interpreted to mean that a person should dress in a manner that inspires people to view them as being ultra-confident and super-successful in their field. For example, if a specialist surgeon dressed in slip-slop sandals, a tattered track pants and a faded sweatshirt, people would be unlikely to afford him the same respect, at the first encounter, as they would have had he been dressed more formally.

The reality of the matter is that a person’s dressing not only has a direct effect on how others perceive him, but it also has a remarkable influence on one’s own mindset, attitude, behaviour and even mental performance (known as clothed cognition) – as confirmed by numerous studies.

In one study, some participants were made to wear a white coat and then take a test that would indicate their power of selective attention. Before taking the test, they were told that the coat was a scientist’s lab coat. A second group took the same test, but did so while dressed in their usual clothing. Interestingly enough, the group that wore the white coat made 50% less errors on the test compared to the group in ordinary clothing. The reason – they associated the white lab coat with intelligence, knowledge and competence, and this actually boosted their performance as they felt more confidence.

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