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“A Muslimah's Guide to Living a Blissful Life” comprises of guidelines for young Muslim girls extracted from Husn-e-Mu'aasharat by Khairun Nisaa (rahimahallah). For further details, click here.

The Ill-Effects of Parents Neglecting their Children

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Last Updated on Thursday, 07 November 2019 16:29

“A Muslimah’s Guide to Living a Blissful Life” by Sayyidah Khairun Nisaa (rahimahallah) #10

Presently, the general situation has reached the point where parents are subservient to their children and are completely enamoured by them. This is the result of the parents failing to give their children the correct Deeni (upbringing and) education, where instead of making an effort to teach their children (Deeni values), they remain unconcerned and show scant regard to them.

When the mother and father neglect (to instil Deeni values in) their children, then they (eventually) become the subservient subjects of their children who will rule over them. When the parents will oblige their every request, give them complete freedom of choice, place the happiness of their children before their own happiness, not be prepared to ‘break the hearts’ of their children, and fail to teach them right from wrong, how will those children ever become subservient to their parents. As a result, their situation will definitely be that (lamentable mess) which we witness today.

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The Manner of Raising and Educating Young Girls in the Past (Part 3)

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Last Updated on Thursday, 12 September 2019 15:41

“A Muslimah’s Guide to Living a Blissful Life” by Sayyidah Khairun Nisaa (rahimahallah) #9

Mothers would teach their daughters to deal with even the most difficult of challenges that related to maintaining hayaa (shame and modesty) in both an easy and pleasant manner, so that when these challenges did surface, the young girls did not find any difficulty in dealing with the situation.

Mothers would not allow their daughters to engage in anything that was against Deen and the sharee‘ah. Similarly, they would not allow them to read any literature besides the Quraan Majeed, hadeeth shareef and other kitaabs of Deen. In this regard, they would tell their daughters quite clearly, “To spend your time in (idle) things besides these (things of Deen) is an act of futility and is a waste.”

They would stress the importance of salaah and fasting on their daughters and would create the eagerness in them to recite the various forms of zikr and engage in du‘aa. They ensured that their daughters possessed all the kitaabs that related to various aspects of Deen. Hence, they would not carry out such actions or behave in such a manner that was contrary to Deen.

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The Manner of Raising and Educating Young Girls in the Past (Part 2)

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Last Updated on Tuesday, 30 July 2019 09:59

“A Muslimah’s Guide to Living a Blissful Life” by Sayyidah Khairun Nisaa (rahimahallah) #8

In the past, mothers would be particular in selecting such a place for their daughters to spend their time and carry out their activities where they would remain shielded from all evil influences. Accordingly, they were never exposed to non-mahram males, and it was even difficult for strange women to pass by (and encounter them).

Their mother or sister would often spend time with them and teach them domestic work, explain to them the highs and lows and ups and downs of life, and create the enthusiasm for good in their hearts together with instilling the aversion for evil in them. They would also show them the consequences that result from these evil qualities and actions and instil such disgust for these evils within them that would not leave them even after marriage.

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The Manner of Raising and Educating Young Girls in the Past (Part 1)

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Last Updated on Tuesday, 30 July 2019 09:58

In the past, it was the norm for mothers to call their daughters and make them sit in their company. They would speak to their daughters and discuss things that were interesting, enjoyable and light-hearted. They would make them memorize those surahs of the Quraan Majeed that are generally recited in salaah and would gradually make them practice on the various laws, injunctions and obligations of Deen.

Once the mothers were satisfied (and confident that their daughters had acquired the Deeni knowledge that they would require in life), they would then commence teaching them social etiquettes and the correct manner of interacting with different people. They would keep a perpetual watch on the manner in which their daughters conducted with people and would scrutinize their daughters’ every action and behaviour.

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Emulating the Elders​

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Last Updated on Thursday, 28 February 2019 16:06

“A Muslimah’s Guide to Living a Blissful Life” by Sayyidah Khairun Nisaa (rahimahallah) #6

My dear daughters! Carefully observe your elders and learn intelligence from them. Strive to become like them and imbibe modesty, bashfulness, intelligence and wisdom. By doing this, you will attain success and prosperity in this world and the next. Furthermore, you will lead a life of respect, happiness and dignity.

Until good and bad examples are not placed before you and a comparison is made between them, you will not gain a true understanding. Similarly, until you are not given a complete description of how things were in the past, and the manner in which people of the past lived, interacted and socialized, and how they educated and raised their children, and until the mannerisms and ways of the young girls of those times is not clearly outlined before you, you will never understand and will not be able to instil those qualities within yourself that are in actual fact the essence of being a civilized human being. Likewise, you will be unable to correct your weaknesses (and improve your character). 

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