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Equality Breeds Disunity


Remember well! In the smooth running of our worldly and religious matters, there has to be a system where one is a leader and the rest are followers. The basis of unity and conformity is when one person who is accepted as being the leader is obeyed and the rest obey. There will never be unity and conformity if everyone wishes to be the leader and no one wishes to follow, or everyone is claiming equality, that everyone is a leader and nobody is a follower.

Thus for unity to exist in a marriage, one partner has to lead and the other has to follow. There is no concept of equality between husband and wife as this is the root cause of disunity. Thus justice demands that the husband is followed and the wife is the follower.


In Privacy, Not Public


Last Updated on Thursday, 20 March 2014 16:07

It is natural that couples now and again become irritated and angry with one another. However one should never lose oneself in public and end up shouting and insulting one’s spouse in front of others. This will definitely be a means of embarrassment for the spouse and will create much bitterness in the marriage. More important than giving vent to ones anger and frustration is keeping the heart of one’s spouse. We need to control and contain ourselves, and train our minds to solve all problems and differences within the privacy and confines of our homes. 


Love and Obedience


A husband and wife relationship does not work on the principle of instruct and obey, where the husband instructs and the wife obeys. Rather it is a relationship of love between the lover and the beloved. It is love that motivates us to be obedient, while our obedience enhances love for us in the hearts of others. Love and obedience work hand in hand in any marriage. In a marriage relationship, the husband expresses and shows his love for his wife and the wife expresses and shows her obedience towards her husband. The husband’s love and the wife’s obedience is what strengthens the bond of marriage. An oppressive husband or a disobedient wife is all it takes to cripple a marriage. If the husband rules with love and affection, then the wife will happily oblige and follow, and if the wife strictly obeys the husband, then the husband will be compelled to be more loving and caring. It nevertheless goes without saying that there can be no obedience to the creation in aspects that incur the displeasure of the Creator – Allah Ta‘ala.


In-laws or Out-Laws


Last Updated on Thursday, 07 November 2013 14:32

Unfortunately the issue of in-laws often becomes one of the major contributing factors that strain the relationship between husband and wife. This sometimes even leads to divorce. In most instances it is only petty issues which are blown out of proportion.

Hereunder are a few basic guidelines which would assist in maintaining a happy relationship with your in-laws:

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Marriage Survival Kit


Last Updated on Wednesday, 25 September 2013 14:35

Do not demand your rights. Discharge your obligations!

Keep smiling. It is act of charity!

Express praise and gratitude. All human beings share the same basic needs: To feel appreciated, respected and loved!

Never compare your spouse with others. The grass always looks greener on the other side!

Never bring up past problems that were resolved. They only cloud the future!

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