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Ten Steps to Winning his Heart


Last Updated on Thursday, 28 April 2016 12:19

‘Amr bin Hujr Kindi had sent a proposal to ‘Auf bin Muhallam Shaibaanee asking for the hand of his daughter, Ummu Iyaas, in marriage. On receiving the proposal, the father of Ummu Iyaas, ‘Auf, decided to accept it.

When the night arrived for Ummu Iyaas to leave her parents’ home and depart for the home of her husband, her mother came to her and said, “O my beloved daughter! You are about to leave the home in which you were born and the ‘nest’ which you have now outgrown. You are going to live with a man whom you do not know and a companion with whom you are unfamiliar. You should therefore become his slave girl so that he will, in turn, become your slave. Pay special attention to the following ten aspects as you will find them to be a great resource in assisting you to enjoy a happy marriage: 

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The Marriage Carriage


Last Updated on Friday, 18 March 2016 10:16

Marriage is one amazing journey...

The fuel for the first half of the journey is love while the fuel for the second half of the journey is mercy.

Marriage initially takes off as a beautiful, novel experience in which you enjoy the thrills and frills.

With age, the couple turn over to a new page called “old age” which is certainly not some cold cage. Rather, it is a stage where a sage will wage no rage.

A true couple will happily and carefully work around moments of pain and agony. With patience and intelligence, they will learn to give and forgive, let and forget.

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Hearts make Homes


Last Updated on Thursday, 05 November 2015 10:34

All it takes to build a house is a few hands. To build a home, however, hearts are needed. When bricks join and bond, a house is made and when hearts join and bond, a home is made. For married couples to make a home, it is essential that they “have a heart” – be tolerant and overlook each other’s faults. If they are not willing to forgive and forget, trivial issues will erupt into big arguments. This will eventually result in the couple becoming the talk of the town with their “dirty laundry” hanging out for all to see.

When cutlery is kept together in the same drawer, the spoons and forks will definitely clash and make noise. Similarly, when the husband and wife are close, some arguments are bound to take place. Despite the bickering and arguing, if one of them has to pass away, all the fights will be forgotten and the surviving partner will cry over the happy memories.

It often happens that a divorce is issued in the midst of a heated argument. Only later on do the couple come to their senses, at which point they start wringing their hands in regret. The depression, at times, even drives them to the point of insanity. Couples thus need to bond their hearts in such a way that they insha-Allah remain united until death does them apart. 


A Rose without Thorns?


Last Updated on Thursday, 13 August 2015 15:41

A man once entered a tattoo parlour and asked the artist to give him a tattoo. “What tattoo would you like?” the artist enquired. The man pondered a moment then declared, “A Lion! A ferocious lion with his fangs bared, about to roar and pounce on his prey!”

The tattoo artist nodded and began to prepare his needles and ink while the man settled back with a dreamy look of anticipation on his face - how grand the lion will look! How his friends will marvel! But as soon as the artist began working, he yelled in pain and jumped! “Ow!” he exclaimed. “What are you drawing?” “The tail.” replied the artist. The taste of the pain still fresh in his mind he muttered, “Skip the tail, he won’t need to swot any flies away.” The needle was then placed on a lower spot to tattoo the feet. The artist had hardly started when the man once again yelped in pain and sheepishly said, “Leave out the feet, this lion doesn’t need to go anywhere.” The artist then placed the needle on a third spot to tattoo the head. “No! No!” he moaned, “this lion has no need for a head.” This was too much for the artist. He put his needle down in disgust and walked away saying, “Can there ever be a lion without a tail, feet and a head?”

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Childish Adults


Last Updated on Thursday, 26 March 2015 11:29

“The most detested of permitted actions in the sight of Allah Ta‘ala is divorce”.

“Allah Ta‘ala has not created on the surface of the earth anything more hated by Him than divorce.” These are the blessed words of Nabi (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam).

Our beautiful deen of Islam guides us to maintain a relationship of love and affection. However, if a couple, despite all efforts, cannot reconcile and fear that by remaining together they will transgress the laws and limits of Allah Ta‘ala, in such a situation Allah Ta‘ala has allowed the option of a separation as a last resort.

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