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What Passed is Past​

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Last Updated on Saturday, 20 July 2019 08:56

Have we ever pondered over the power of a few words???

A country was at peace – and then a few words of information arrived that the neighbouring country had killed their ambassador... A couple were happily married for thirty years – and then the husband, in a fit of anger, spoke the words of three talaaqs...

A few words – that’s all it takes to start a war or end a marriage.

When this is the power of words and information then how cautious we need to be in their regard!

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The Furnace of Love​

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Last Updated on Monday, 11 March 2019 16:14

Iron is a substance renowned for its strength and resilience. Hence, iron, in its various alloys (a form where it is mixed with another metal) is used extensively in the building industry, especially to support concrete slabs, reinforce foundations, etc. However, have we ever wondered how iron is shaped? After all, we find it available in a multitude of sizes and shapes!

The answer is that for iron to be shaped, it must be heated in a furnace. Once the iron is red-hot, it softens to some extent, becoming malleable (easily shaped without breaking) and accommodating. It is then easy for the blacksmith to mould the metal into the shape he desires. 

In a similar manner, some husband’s have temperaments of ‘iron’. They are ‘hard’ men, unyielding and firm. This certainly has some positives, as such people rarely, if ever, compromise on their standards and values. Furthermore, such people tend to be steadfast, committed, principled and punctual. However, just as everything in life has cons, there are some cons to this as well.

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Bring out the Best in Him

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Last Updated on Tuesday, 06 November 2018 15:36

No matter how hard this material world may try, it will never ever be perfect. Even if you fly first-class, you may have a person snoring nearby, spoiling your serenity. Even if you install the best bathroom fittings, they cannot give you water when the municipality decides to cut-off the mains. Even if the best of food is prepared, you don’t always have the appetite for it, and so on.

The point is that nothing in this material world will be perfect. Rather, you win some and you lose some. Everything will have its pros and cons. The trick is to avoid the cons while enjoying the pros. For example, if a person is stuck with a chipped mug, then instead of cutting his lip over and over on the chipped portion, he will turn the mug the other way and drink from the intact portion. Similarly, if he has a couch that is sagging on one side, then instead of collapsing into the sagging section, he will avoid it and sit on the other side.

The same applies in marriage. No spouse is going to be perfect. If he’s wealthy then maybe he’s ill-mannered, and if he possesses good character then perhaps he’s lazy. Hence, we should never walk into a marriage expecting to find our ‘Mr. Perfect’, as he will only turn up in Jannah.

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Complain to Allah​

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Last Updated on Thursday, 27 September 2018 15:21

“The kids are driving me up the wall!”... “I’ve got the most terrible migraine! It feels as if my head is splitting!”...

We all have our portion of problems in life. Whether it’s a toddler with a tantrum, unreasonable in-laws or nosy neighbours, peoples’ problems and challenges span all spheres of life. Moreover, problems do not make an appointment or give us ‘advance notice’ before stopping by – they arrive out of the blue and stay as long as they wish.

Being human, it is natural for us to be emotionally affected by circumstances. Depending on the nature of the problem, we may feel depressed, angered or even humiliated. In some instances, we may turn to someone and confide in them to seek advice. However, in other instances, many of us turn to our husbands and complain to them in order to ‘off-load’ and receive some sympathy.

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A Saint’s Advice to his Daughter

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Last Updated on Tuesday, 10 July 2018 09:50

The respected daughter of ‘Aarif Billah Moulana Shah Hakeem Muhammed Akhtar (rahimahullah) had always harboured the desire and longing to perform ‘umrah at least once with her father. Accordingly, Moulana Shah Hakeem Muhammed Akhtar (rahimahullah) decided to perform ‘umrah, but was thereafter forced to postpone the trip on account of his illness and weakness.

The respected daughter of Moulana Shah Hakeem Muhammed Akhtar (rahimahullah) was naturally disappointed that she would not be able to perform ‘umrah with her father. Nevertheless, her husband, Manzar Mia, decided that they would proceed with the trip.

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