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Securing Our Children from the Unseen Threats

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Last Updated on Wednesday, 09 December 2020 15:36

Every parent has deep love for their child, causing them to constantly feel concerned over the safety, well-being and progress of the child. Such is the concern of the parents that if they hear of any threat in the neighbourhood, such as kidnappings, they will immediately caution their children and keep them housebound, out of the fear that they should not become victims. Furthermore, when leaving the home, the parents will not allow the child out of their sight, and may even go to the extent of holding their hand the entire time. However, this is as far as visible threats are concerned.

Just as there are visible people who are threats to our young children, there is also an unseen or invisible danger that threatens our children. This is the threat of shayaateen and jinn that cast their evil influence over young children, thus harming and affecting them.

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What’s in a Laugh???

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Last Updated on Thursday, 29 October 2020 08:53

The abbreviation “LOL” stands for “laughing out loud”, and is commonly used in place of the now outdated “HAHAHA!”. Nevertheless, the mere fact that we even express our laughter in written communications highlights the point that laughter is a meaningful and purposeful response.

To phrase it differently, there may be only two repeated letters in HAHAHA, however laughter actually says quite a lot. In fact, laughter, in different circumstances, can convey completely different meanings.

For example, if a person says in all seriousness, “My mother passed away,” and his statement is received with laughter, he will feel hurt and offended. On the contrary, if one has to make a joke, and the response is laughter, then one will feel pleased and happy. In the same way, if a person is convicted of a crime, and he has to sarcastically laugh in the face of the judge, then he could possibly be charged with contempt of court!

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Are My Children Faithful and Responsible?

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Last Updated on Monday, 14 September 2020 13:51

(Advice of ‘Allaamah ‘Abdul Wahhaab Sha’raani [rahimahullah])

Some seniors have mentioned that when your son grows up (and commences adulthood) then you should treat him like your (younger) brother (i.e. do not continue treating him like a child, but rather begin to train him by gradually giving him responsibilities and monitoring his progress).

I once saw a person who entrusted all his wealth to his son before he had tested his son (to see whether he was responsible and trustworthy or not). The son then said to the father, “O my father! I fear that my brothers will fight with me for this money. They will demand from me the money that I want to spend on you and your dependents. Hence, I want you to sign a document in which you relinquish all control of the money to me so that none of my brothers will have a valid case against me.” The father (trusted his son and) did as his son requested, after which his son claimed ownership of all the money and did not give his father even a single dirham (silver coin).

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Maintaining Moderation in Upbringing #2

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Last Updated on Wednesday, 19 August 2020 16:01

(Advice of ‘Allaamah ‘Abdul Wahhaab Sha’raani [rahimahullah])

My esteemed senior, ‘Ali Al-Khawaas (rahimahullah) would mention:

“Beware of speaking gently and displaying leniency with your children when they (tantrum or) have a fit of temper, as this will ruin their character and encourage them to continue defying you in the future. Instead, make them aware of their wrongs, and remind them of the punishment which Allah Ta‘ala has prepared for those who engage in these sins.

Beware of swearing your children or insulting them using indecent or vulgar language, as this will cause them to learn these words and then use them when speaking to their friends, and even when speaking to you!

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Spending on One’s Child

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Last Updated on Thursday, 25 June 2020 15:36

(Advice of ‘Allaamah ‘Abdul Wahhaab Sha’raani [rahimahullah])

Imaam Shaafi‘ee (rahimahullah) would say, “Training people (i.e. instilling in them correct character, qualities, etc.) is more difficult than training animals.”

Imaam Shaafi‘ee (rahimahullah) would also say, “Spend on your children, wife and servant to the extent of need. Do not completely hold back from spending on them, as they will then develop a strong disliking for you. At the same time, beware of giving them more wealth than they require, for they will become independent and you will lose control over them, as their obedience to you will be in proportion to their (financial) dependence on you.”

I heard my esteemed senior, ‘Ali Al-Khawwaas (rahimahullah) mentioning, “Do your best to give your children the correct upbringing, and make every effort to instill the disinterest of the world and its attractions within their hearts. Do not give your children money in their hands (i.e. to spend at their discretion), as they will then use the money to fulfill their desires and buy things that will corrupt and destroy them. Allah Ta‘ala mentions in the Quraan Majeed, ‘Do not give, to those who are weak in understanding, your property which Allah Ta‘ala has made a means of support (and sustenance) for you, but rather you provide for them with it and clothe them, and speak to them words of kindness.’” (Surah Nisaa v5)

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