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Mutton and Peppadew Stew with Couscous

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Last Updated on Saturday, 22 August 2020 09:15

Ingredients:

700g cubed mutton leg/shoulder

3 tsp crushed garlic

1 tsp chilli

½ tsp dhana jeero

½ tsp salt

½ tsp black pepper

1 tsp thyme

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Maintaining Moderation in Upbringing #2

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Last Updated on Wednesday, 19 August 2020 16:01

(Advice of ‘Allaamah ‘Abdul Wahhaab Sha’raani [rahimahullah])

My esteemed senior, ‘Ali Al-Khawaas (rahimahullah) would mention:

“Beware of speaking gently and displaying leniency with your children when they (tantrum or) have a fit of temper, as this will ruin their character and encourage them to continue defying you in the future. Instead, make them aware of their wrongs, and remind them of the punishment which Allah Ta‘ala has prepared for those who engage in these sins.

Beware of swearing your children or insulting them using indecent or vulgar language, as this will cause them to learn these words and then use them when speaking to their friends, and even when speaking to you!

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Together or Apart?

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Last Updated on Saturday, 27 June 2020 14:53

With the fast-paced lifestyle of our era, people are almost always in a hurry. Whether it is rushing for school, rushing to work, rushing to buy groceries or rushing for salaah, most people are perpetually on the move.

The effect of this fast-paced lifestyle can be seen in the home as well, where despite the members of the household living under the same roof, it is commonly witnessed that many of them actually spend very little time together. In fact, it is not unheard of for some household members to only meet each other once in the entire day!

Naturally, this is unhealthy for the family unit, as family time is essential for the family to be able to bond with one another. In the absence of family time, the household members may have just a few meters separating them, but their hearts will be kilometers apart. Hence, it is not surprising to hear of incidents where brothers fight with one another and even take each other to court, or children abandon their parents and dump them in old-age homes. The reason is clear – their hearts never bonded and developed love for one another.

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Spending on One’s Child

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Last Updated on Thursday, 25 June 2020 15:36

(Advice of ‘Allaamah ‘Abdul Wahhaab Sha’raani [rahimahullah])

Imaam Shaafi‘ee (rahimahullah) would say, “Training people (i.e. instilling in them correct character, qualities, etc.) is more difficult than training animals.”

Imaam Shaafi‘ee (rahimahullah) would also say, “Spend on your children, wife and servant to the extent of need. Do not completely hold back from spending on them, as they will then develop a strong disliking for you. At the same time, beware of giving them more wealth than they require, for they will become independent and you will lose control over them, as their obedience to you will be in proportion to their (financial) dependence on you.”

I heard my esteemed senior, ‘Ali Al-Khawwaas (rahimahullah) mentioning, “Do your best to give your children the correct upbringing, and make every effort to instill the disinterest of the world and its attractions within their hearts. Do not give your children money in their hands (i.e. to spend at their discretion), as they will then use the money to fulfill their desires and buy things that will corrupt and destroy them. Allah Ta‘ala mentions in the Quraan Majeed, ‘Do not give, to those who are weak in understanding, your property which Allah Ta‘ala has made a means of support (and sustenance) for you, but rather you provide for them with it and clothe them, and speak to them words of kindness.’” (Surah Nisaa v5)

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Creamy Pot Pie

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Last Updated on Saturday, 20 June 2020 13:30

Perfect for cold weather

Ingredients:

½ kg cubed chicken fillet

3 Tbsp butter

1 tsp salt

2 tsp crushed garlic

1 tsp chilli powder

1 tsp dhana jeero

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