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What Will Become of Her?

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Last Updated on Thursday, 08 October 2020 08:38

There were many men who would not drink coffee, yet after a few years of marriage, they became regular coffee consumers. Likewise, there were many women who had never drank a sip of tea, yet after a few years of marriage, they became regular tea drinkers.

There are many other examples that illustrate the manner in which one spouse’s ways, tendencies and habits rub off onto the other. It can be as simple as taste in food, or a little more involved such as developing punctuality and fastidiousness. Nevertheless, the point is evident – spouses have a profound effect on one another, to the point of even altering their habits and ways.

This is exactly why it is so important to ensure that one marries the correct spouse. Often, a person is aware of a major Deeni weakness in their potential spouse (e.g. lack of commitment to salaah). However, they feel that it will not affect them, or they will be able to influence their spouse and change them for the better. Though this is certainly a possibility, we must acknowledge that there is a definite possibility that they will imbibe some bad habits and evil ways from their spouse. Hence, without ever regarding oneself as superior or better, nevertheless prudence demands that one refrain from taking such a chance – especially since one’s greatest asset (Deen) is at risk.

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Chocolate Crinkles

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Last Updated on Tuesday, 29 September 2020 08:49

Ingredients:

180g dark chocolate, coarsely chopped

60g butter

1 ½ cup flour

¾ tsp baking powder

1/8 tsp salt

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The Dignity of Domestic Staff

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Last Updated on Sunday, 20 September 2020 08:58

From gardeners to domestic workers and drivers – many homes employ one or even multiple staff to fulfil the household needs. These staff may be South African or from another country, they may be old or young, they may be educated or uneducated, and they may be skilled or unskilled. Regardless of these variances, there is one important point that we must bear in mind regarding our staff – they are Allah’s living creation and should thus be treated in a kind and just manner.

Unfortunately, since the working class are disempowered, it is often witnessed that people take undue advantage of them. At times, they are made to work overtime without compensation, or their pay is cut even though they may not be liable for the damage in sharee‘ah or it was not conclusively proven that they had stolen the missing item. Likewise, there are many other ways in which their rights are trampled and they are ill-treated, and it is only their desperation for the income that prevents them from speaking out and challenging their employer.

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Are My Children Faithful and Responsible?

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Last Updated on Monday, 14 September 2020 13:51

(Advice of ‘Allaamah ‘Abdul Wahhaab Sha’raani [rahimahullah])

Some seniors have mentioned that when your son grows up (and commences adulthood) then you should treat him like your (younger) brother (i.e. do not continue treating him like a child, but rather begin to train him by gradually giving him responsibilities and monitoring his progress).

I once saw a person who entrusted all his wealth to his son before he had tested his son (to see whether he was responsible and trustworthy or not). The son then said to the father, “O my father! I fear that my brothers will fight with me for this money. They will demand from me the money that I want to spend on you and your dependents. Hence, I want you to sign a document in which you relinquish all control of the money to me so that none of my brothers will have a valid case against me.” The father (trusted his son and) did as his son requested, after which his son claimed ownership of all the money and did not give his father even a single dirham (silver coin).

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Orange Streusel Cake

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Last Updated on Thursday, 10 September 2020 15:12

Streusel:

½ cup flour

½ cup packed light brown sugar

¼ tsp salt

4 Tbsp butter, melted

½ cup sliced almonds

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